Everyday Boundaries

The first half of this lesson is an overview. To see how it applies to your specific relationship click on this hyperlink to be directed to more options... For vs. To:   Now that we’ve learned about our areas of responsibility (and what’s not our responsibility), it might be easy to say, “If I’m not responsible for anyone else’s feelings, what’s the point of bending over backward to please anybody?” While this certainly may be an appealing idea—to focus on your feelings and assign others to be responsible for their own feelings—there is still a flaw in this way of thinking. Although it is true that everyone is  responsible  for  their own feelings, being in a relationship with someone (whether it’s a marriage, parent/child relationship, friendship, etc.) makes you  responsible  to  that person in some capacity. In the book Boundaries, Dr. Cloud and Townsend state, “we are responsible to care about and help,  within certain limits ” those with ...